Everyday sexism….

shep

Senior Member
I work a farm with other people a lot of the time

We use all sorts of expletives, about things going wrong, stuff breaking, tractors not starting, animals being uncooperative, or for referring to bad shoot (or people) 'out there'.

But we'd never use it to poke fun at peoples physical afflictions.

That just sounds like childish. bullying, to me.

Of course people will go along with it, and say they 'dont mind' so as to be seen as 'one of the lads'

But you just don't know how much it hurts on the inside.
We're a bunch of 55 plus blokes who have worked together for over 20 yrs, do you not think we know each other by now?
 
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mudsticks

Über Member
We're a bunch of 55 plus blokes who have worked together for over 20 yrs, do you not think we know each other by now?

No idea about your interpersonal workplace relationships, we've only got your word for it .

But I know it's not that long since the black guy in the team had to 'laugh along' with his 'chalky' tag.

There's 'having a laugh' and then there's picking on people.

If I had a speech impediment, or an unpleasant skin condition I don't think I'd feel great about someone naming me for it.

Without your workmates opinion we can't know for sure, but it sounds pretty mean to me.
 

Pale Rider

Well-Known Member
A confession. I made (unintentionally) a sexist remark for which I wish to apologise. I was trying to make a quip that backfired and was called- out on it - for which I admitted culpability and apologised.
But one can always learn….

I was in the walk-in freezer at work with a tall woman and a short (like me) chap. The tall woman was struggling to get a large heavy poly box from the top shelf. I then quipped:

‘Woukd you like a strong man to help you? If so, ask David! (part of the joke being neither of us could have reached very well being much shorter). The other fellow, David interupted and called-out my sexism - correctly I may add.

However we try, sometimes we can get caught-out….

You'd have been better off calling out David for the po-faced knacker he obviously is.

Is he a member on here?
 

shep

Senior Member
No idea about your interpersonal workplace relationships, we've only got your word for it .

But I know it's not that long since the black guy in the team had to 'laugh along' with his 'chalky' tag.

There's 'having a laugh' and then there's picking on people.

If I had a speech impediment, or an unpleasant skin condition I don't think I'd feel great about someone naming me for it.

Without your workmates opinion we can't know for sure, but it sounds pretty mean to me.
Well you're just going to have to take my word for it aren't you, or not if you don't want to, I guess you don't know many ex-squaddies then and know what their sense of humour is like?

It's a similar thing.

One thing you need to take on board is not everyone is the same as you, just because you would take offence at something for example it doesn't mean others do.
 

mudsticks

Über Member
Well you're just going to have to take my word for it aren't you, or not if you don't want to, I guess you don't know many ex-squaddies then and know what their sense of humour is like?

It's a similar thing.

One thing you need to take on board is not everyone is the same as you, just because you would take offence at something for example it doesn't mean others do.

You seem to think I live in some world apart from yours .

I know lots of people from all walks of life .

I suspect a broader range of situations and social demographic than you do

And in each situation i will adjust my vocabulary accordingly.

It's what most of us do as social , and socialised humans.

How I speak at home, or work, how I speak when teaching, or speaking at a conference.

How I speak to people from other countries or cultures, how I speak to people I know, and people I don't (such as on the internet) it changes slightly with each context.

That's not unusual.


But I also know bullying and picking on when I see it.

Of course your mate may be fine with having his stammer ridiculed I don't know.

But I'd guess most people would rather it didn't happen.
 

mudsticks

Über Member
A confession. I made (unintentionally) a sexist remark for which I wish to apologise. I was trying to make a quip that backfired and was called- out on it - for which I admitted culpability and apologised.
But one can always learn….

I was in the walk-in freezer at work with a tall woman and a short (like me) chap. The tall woman was struggling to get a large heavy poly box from the top shelf. I then quipped:

‘Woukd you like a strong man to help you? If so, ask David! (part of the joke being neither of us could have reached very well being much shorter). The other fellow, David interupted and called-out my sexism - correctly I may add.

However we try, sometimes we can get caught-out….

To be honest your main problem seems to be more about,storage arrangements, and a lack of a decent step ladder perhaps??

Put heavier items on the lower shelves, or divide them up between two poly boxes.

Then no one has to struggle with heavy stuff

Male or female , short or tall :okay:
 
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